Family Law Attorney MN Divorce Mediation

Minnesota Divorce and Family Law Attorney

No couple goes into marriage thinking they will be the ones who won’t make it. Certainly, at your wedding, you thought your love would last a lifetime. But what happens when the love fizzles out? Unfortunately, you are not alone. Over 55% of first-time marriages in the United States result in divorce and over 70% of second-time Marriage Planning MN also end in divorce.

Now, for reasons you may not fully understand, that dream seems shattered. But while it is usually a difficult time, divorce doesn’t always need be traumatic, especially when alternatives are now available.

Historically, disputes were resolved in trial by battle; one lived, one died. The idea is that there is a decision, and generally a winner(s) and a loser(s). Litigation is the most traditional form of dispute resolution and involves the use of the courts. It is initiated by filing a lawsuit in a court. By definition, litigation is an adversarial process. How often does litigation improve interpersonal relations? Unfortunately, the answer to that question is never.

As Justice Harvey Brownstone says, “When you start a court case, you are starting a war.” When you think about it, nobody enters into a battle, fight, game, or other adversarial situation with the intent to lose or even tie. Rather, everyone involved “plays to win.” Unfortunately, unless there is a tie (stalemate), there can only be one “winner.” Generally speaking, anyone other than the “winner” loses. However, when families are involved, nobody “wins,” despite the perception that someone may have “won.” Besides, even if the matter results in a “tie,” the damage has already been done and cannot be undone.

Divorce Mediation

There is no easy solution, but with divorce mediation it can be done without the need for bloodshed. Divorce is difficult enough without making a game of it. (It is certainly far too important to be made into the legal version of a tug of war in which one or both of the parties invariably end up getting dragged through the dirt.) To be sure, there will be very painful feelings that one or both of the parties are experiencing that may make it difficult for them to sit down and attempt to deal with their problem responsibly. Nevertheless, common sense is enough to tell them that it is far better to keep those painful feelings in check rather than to give them expression, which is what will inevitably happen if they turn to adversarial divorce proceedings, and legal warfare.

According to Albert Einstein, “insanity” is defined as “doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” Therefore, if you want a different outcome, I strongly advise that you consider taking a different approach to divorce, and other family law matters, such as mediation, child custody, child support, or Spousal Support Lawyer MN .  Almost any issue that arises between family members can benefit from mediation. The bottom line is… Divorce will never disappear. But not every divorce requires a trial!

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Jennifer graduated from the University of Minnesota cum laude with a bachelor’s degree in speech communications. In 2006, Jennifer achieved her life’s dream; owning her own family Law Attorney Minnesota practice. She practices every day as Divorce lawyers MN with the intention of representing her clients’ future.